Want to Try Something New?

As some of you know, I dumped my monthly newsletter in June to try a new experiment.  So far, it’s working out pretty well so I’m sharing it with you here.  If it sounds like fun, I’d love to have you subscribe.  If it sounds like something you could modify for your own work, feel free to “steal” the idea and run with it! 

I’ve noticed a recent trend in the way I read my e-mail: I rarely make it to the end of long messages.

Maybe my attention span is starting to go, or maybe it’s because I read so much of my e-mail on my phone, but whatever the reason, after about 300 words, I close the message telling myself I’ll come back to it “later.”

Except, later usually means never.

It occurred to me that if I feel that way about e-mail you might be noticing that same problem with say, e-mail newsletters with “monthly on-line communications advice.”

To that end, I’ve decided to try something new. Instead of sending one long article each month, I’d like to send you a short “prompt” each week.

One week’s e-mail might include a short challenge designed to help you improve your social media presence. The next week it could be an activity to help you get out of your own way, overcome resistance, or be nicer to yourself.

The unifying factor is that each one will invite you to take a simple (if not easy) step just outside your current comfort zone, in order to help move you just a little closer to your goals.

Oh, and each message will be short enough to read on your phone between meetings.

Sound like fun?  Click here to subscribe!

Need some convincing?  Check out a couple of the messages you’ve missed.

An opportunity to work with Brené Brown

Edit:  Sorry, this opportunity is over 😦

One of the producers for Katie Couric’s new daytime show e-mailed me about Brené Brown’s upcoming appearance on the show and asked me to pass on this invitation to attend the taping in person.  For more information, about the segment visit KatieCouric.com.

From the e-mail:

We are doing a show all on “Daring Greatly” with Brené and want to fill her audience with fans AND feature some fans as guests on the show to discuss ways they can possibly dare greatly for the first time with Brene’s help. Continue reading

Permission to be Multi Passionate

I’m so excited  welcome Deanna Lohnes, back to the blog.  You may remember her from last summer’s  Kardashian /Cardasian mix up.  Deanna teaches solopreneurs and small businesses to create effective marketing messages. Deanna owns Parlance Media parlancellc.com. Stop by the blog and say hello. When she isn’t building success with smart business owners, she is lounging in a boat or on the beach.

When Maureen asked me to write a post about how the world benefits from cognitive surplus efforts, I was thrilled. I have surplus cognition! I have my fingers in lots of business pies! No problem.

No problem, that is, until I sat down to write. Blinking cursor. 218 words too embarrassing to submit. Blinking cursor. Delay, embarrassment, blinking cursor. Finally, I realized why writing a post about spare time efforts was like pulling teeth: I’m multi passionate.

“Hi, I’m Deanna and I’m multi passionate.” It feels like the kind of thing one admits in a church basement surrounded by supportive but similarly afflicted friends. Over the years my many interests have led people to call me flaky, unfocused and indecisive. I’ve been accused of lacking drive, commitment and ambition. In college a friend suggested I get tested for ADD. Once a friend even lamented that I would be happier with my work if I were less intelligent.

I’m just now starting to accept the idea that I’m not flighty and shiftless. I don’t need to settle down and focus. I’m learning to embrace my multi passionate self. Many years ago, Barbara Sher coined the term scanner to describe people who were interested in a dozen things at once. I think my parents bought her book for me because I couldn’t choose a college major. Since then, renaissance man has gone in and out of fashion to describe the same phenomenon. Some of us are just wired to need variety. Having the option to switch between multiple projects keeps things interesting. Continue reading

Vulnerability for Nonprofits

This post is part of a series on Vulnerability.  If you are new here you may want to start with this post.  

Jenny Mitchell, Chavender Inc.

If you’ve been hanging out here for awhile you know I’m a big fan of Brené Brown and her research around the value of expressing vulnerability.  So when my friend and client Jenny Mitchell of Chavender Inc.  wrote about how this video changed her view of what nonprofit board members need to do their best work  I knew I wanted to share it here.

Jenny says:

. . .with Brené’s video in mind, what kind of a Board are you building? Are you creating a sense of belonging around the table? Are you cultivating authenticity and opportunities for connections to happen? Brené talks about “excruciating vulnerability” being directly on the path towards a sense of connectedness among humans. And yet, most not-for-profit professionals would laugh out loud if I told them that I was building a “vulnerable board” to fully support my cause.

According to Brené’s definition of vulnerability, the first step towards finding a sense of belonging is to “put yourself out there and be vulnerable.” With that definition in mind, what kind of opportunities can you provide for Board members so that they experience this sense of connection?

Read the full post at Chavender.com.

While you are over there, be sure to check out some of Jenny’s other posts as well.  This one is my favorite.

Be Vulnerable with Yourself

This post is part of a series on Vulnerability.  If you are new here you may want to start with this post.  

Does the idea of sharing your deepest fears and darkest secrets–or even your personality quirks–make you want to throw up?

Do you believe (or worry) the people you love are more interested in what you do for them than for who you are?

Are you afraid if you quit earning your keep, even for a moment, you’ll be “voted off the island?”

Defining Shame

All of these feelings come from the same place:  a deep seeded fear that at our core we are unlovable–and that if anyone finds out, we will be cast out.  Brené Brown explains it best.

Because shame works by making us feel alone,  it’s very hard to talk about it–even to the people who love us most– for fear that if they knew what we were really like they would leave.  Ironically, it is that very act of secrecy that allows shame to maintain its hold on us.

Therefore, talking about shame experiences as soon as they happen with a trusted friend is healthy, beneficial and much easier said than done. Continue reading